BDSM Consent: Hard Limits, Safeword & Rules
BDSM Consent: Hard Limits, Safeword & Rules
Every scene starts with BDSM consent. You set hard limits, agree on a safeword, and follow a written session protocol pinned under clear rules. Clarity first, play second.
The consent framework
Three steps, zero drama
- Define limits: hard, soft, and curiosities. Write them.
- Pick a safeword: keep it short and memorable. Traffic-light works.
- Pin the protocol: rules, timing, aftercare. Top of thread, always.
Humor is allowed. Ambiguity is not.
Hard vs. soft limits
Hard limits
Non-negotiable “no.” If it’s on this list, it does not happen. Full stop. No persuasion games.
Soft limits
“Maybe” with conditions. Scope, intensity, duration, and mood matter. Treat as experiments with guardrails.
Safeword methods
- Traffic light: Green keep going, Yellow adjust, Red stop now.
- Single word: one uncommon word for immediate stop.
- Out-of-band: agreed emoji or gesture for calls when audio glitches.
When Red is used, the session stops and aftercare begins. No debate.
Session protocol
What to pin
- Rules and etiquette
- Check-in intervals and time limits
- Safeword and escalation path
- Aftercare steps and follow-up window
House rules (short list)
- Consent is written and current. Screenshots beat memory.
- Respect quiet hours and time zones. Dominance ≠ 24/7 availability.
- No recording or sharing without explicit permission.
- Tribute/rates are confirmed before any session starts.
Copy-paste templates
Consent & Limits Form
Participant: [your handle] Date: 2025-11-02 HARD LIMITS: - [list items] SOFT LIMITS: - [list items + conditions] SAFEWORD: - Traffic light (Green/Yellow/Red) + Backup word: [word] CHECK-INS: - Every [N] minutes or on request AFTERCARE: - [what you need], follow-up in [N] hours
Pinned Rules Template
SESSION PROTOCOL — Read & Acknowledge 1) Consent & Limits: stored in this thread (see form). 2) Safeword: Red = stop now. Yellow = adjust. Green = continue. 3) Timing: session max [duration], check-ins every [N] minutes. 4) Privacy: no recording/sharing; screenshots only for consent/receipts. 5) Tribute/Rates: confirmed before start. No surprises later. 6) Aftercare: [steps]; follow-up window [N] hours. Acknowledged by: [handles] at [time].
FAQ
Why write consent instead of "we talked"?
Because text is clear and reviewable. It prevents misreads and protects both parties.
Can limits change mid-session?
Yes. Update the thread. Use Yellow to adjust or Red to stop, then re-scope.
What happens after a Red?
Immediate stop, check-in, and aftercare plan. Only resume if both agree in writing.
Is this legal advice?
No. Follow local laws and platform rules. Adults only, consensual only.
